- Absolutely no name calling!
- Don't bring up old stuff. It's in the past and that's where it needs to stay.
- Don't make generalities like "you always do this," "you always say that."
- Choose your words carefully because once they leave your mouth, you can't take them back.
These work for us and I always share the list with anyone I know that is getting married. I'm not saying it is a perfect "system" but being conscious of your behavior in anger is great for improving your self-control and can keep you from hurting the most important person in your life.
I'm looking forward to the 19th and to celebrating the next 17+ years with my honey, D.